You’ve got 658 Facebook friends, and a packed social calendar. Everywhere you go is brimming with other humans… but yet you still feel alone.
Do you feel alone, even with people all around? Loneliness is a modern-day affliction despite all of the opportunities for human contact.
This has to do with the quality, not the quantity of connection.
Why are humans together more than ever in various ways, but yet we still feel emotionally distanced?
Alone in your marriage.
It’s hard to get that closeness we crave when there’s always a distraction. It’s hard to feel appreciated when no one seems to be paying attention to all that you do.
It’s getting harder to feel heard or understood in marriage… maybe because you and your partner are barely treading water in what feels like separate oceans.
Alone despite so many friends.
Friendships feel surface these days. People log on to social media and report what they did. Others come around and give a thumbs up. Or they give a compliment and get a thank-you. The End.
But how is that meaningful? It doesn’t address the details that make us feel truly seen and recognized for all the good that we do and all that we are in an our specialness.
Alone with no one to help with your life problems.
We all face our share of challenges. Yours could be financial challenges, difficulty at your job, mental health issues, relationship struggles… or all of the above.
Why do we feel alone in our life struggles?
We’re too busy. We don’t have time or make time to vent or bounce ideas off others.
Many people lead full lives these days. Both marriage partners working, to-do lists and activities packed to the gills.
If every single day is full of tasks, you’re bound to have your nose to the grindstone or in your phone every minute. This leaves no time to reach out for meaningful exchange with another person.
Our social contact is mostly Facebook.
On Facebook, people only post gorgeous pictures of themselves always having what appears to be an amazing time.
This gives the impression that life is grand for everyone else except you. Facebook hides the reality that we all go through rough patches and every day is not sunny skies and rainbows.
We aren’t putting our trust in other people enough to be honest.
The world has become go, go, go. Always on, always producing. Always having so much fun. The competitive drive has never been stronger in humans.
That means when you do get stuck, make a mistake, or fail temporarily, you’re not likely to reach out to a fellow human and say hey, I screwed up. I feel confused, overwhelmed, and uncertain. Help me! Support me! Validate me!
We feel alone because communication is a mess… even despite all of these outlets and opportunities to connect.
Think about the last time you had a text chat that wasn’t confusing. Why confusing?
- People reading and responding to texts while multitasking on the go.
- People texting when they’re tired.
- Phones messing up the words so you can’t understand what people mean.
- Too much brevity and not enough clarity.
The list goes on! So text is not an ideal way to reach an understanding and build emotional closeness with someone you care about.
That in itself can make you feel lost and alone in your life.
Everything is DIY.
Have you noticed? People are doing it all themselves. Even if you do something simple like walk into your child’s summer camp and ask to be added to the schedule, the task will get kicked back to you immediately.
You will be asked to log into something and enter information into your phone.
If you accept an invite you will be asked to bring something, along with everyone else. Everyone will go to the store and everyone will buy or make a thing to contribute to the gathering.
We’re doing it all ourselves, and it’s not fun or easy.
We aren’t getting the validation we need to feel happy and good about ourselves.
Validation is very powerful. Validation is about being seen, heard and understood. But who is taking the time to validate others in this crazy life we are all living?
Less and less people are remembering to do this simple yet very important thing… honor another human being in a positive and supportive way.
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